brittanyalyssaworsham:

colorado-wildflowers:

kaitmpayne:

danikamcclure:

I know I’ve posted something like this before, but I need to post it again since I just got done from playing a wedding.

It’s so strange seeing people my age or younger than me getting married. People that don’t even look like adults yet. People who’s voices still sound like baby voices. People…

It doesn’t. It doesn’t work.

It does work sometimes. It doesn’t always. Just because it doesn’t work for some doesn’t mean it won’t for anyone else. You have to get married for the right reasons though for it to work, although that applies at any age, and you have to be serious about making it work which so many people are not anymore.

Some people grow and change together, instead of growing apart. Figure out who they are separately AND together. You can still be an independent person in a relationship, growing and finding out who you are and who you want to be, guided by your partner or not. Many people find they are even more alike than before rather than more different. Support helps a LOT when figuring out what you want to do with your life - from friends, parents and why not from partners? Huge life events like graduating college, moving out, moving away from home etc when shared can provide a lot of strength in a relationship.

Being “able” to have sex with different people does not equal valuable life experience, and I don’t understand why people think you should need that to be able to figure yourself out.

(& also, marrying young does not always equal having children young.)

Just because some asshats don’t take their marriages seriously doesn’t mean that every single younger couple is the same way. Everyone in my family got married before 21 and guess what? They are all still happily married. Patrick and I were raised around good, strong, commited relationships and we definitely learned something. We have a strong relationship. We were best friends way before we were ever each other’s significant other. I was 17 when I got married and a year and a half later, Patrick and I are still more in love than we were the day before. Just because we’re young doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of loving and being loved back.

Sometimes it doesn’t work out, just as sometimes it doesn’t work out when people get married later in life in their 40s. And I will admit that the statistics for Daniel and I getting divorced are much higher than most, b/c we got married at 18/20, and he’s in the military, however I don’t think statistics should influence the view of everyone. My great grandparents got married at 18/19 and they would have been together for almost 75 years now(She died, but he still wears his ring and sets her place at dinner) Some young people, like myself and Brittany, planned this out before we ever got married. Daniel and I talked about it for a year or two, and we saved all we could and planned it out as best we could. While some young couples just jump into it, not all do. Age isn’t as much a factor in getting married as maturity, and where you are in life is. I’d already found my best friend that I’m in love with, I didn’t see much of a point in waiting, especially with the long distance factor. His career allows him to support us also. I had no desire to live the typical college lifestyle, never really did. I believe we’re still changing everyday, and the biggest changes that we will go through are between now and 25,I think you do a lot of discovering who you are, and becoming that person, but I think those are changes that we can make together and grow.